How do you repair self-esteem and feeling everyone will reject you?
Posted: September 18th, 2011 | Author: Self esteem coach | Filed under: Self Esteem | Tags: everyone, feeling, reject, repair, SelfEsteem | 3 Comments »Question by Frederick: How do you repair self-esteem and feeling everyone will reject you?
Not sure how it happened, but my self-esteem is damaged. People seem to like me but in my head I feel strongly that they don’t or that they won’t once they know me a little more. Any help in this area is appreciated if you know someone this sounds like or have experienced it yourself.
Okay, but I’m not a stalker. I’m not sure how this applies.
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Answer by blueorange
I know for a fact that people don’t really like me. I hate stalkers above all people actually. I dont’ give a crap whether they are friendly stalkers or they are north korean terrorists spying on canadian citizens.
Just kidding, by the way.
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I totally understand, I feel self-conscious every time I walk into a room. I always think I look ugly even when my friends tell me I don’t. How did I get over it? I still haven’t, it’s something I struggle with everyday. My advice to you is, take some personal time and do what you like to do independently. For me, that’s taking a relaxing bath, burning insense, listening to music, and getting a new outfit or some makeup. Then I go out to dinner with some friends. I like to meet new people and stuff. Basically, do anything that you personally feels improve your appearance, or how you feel about yourself. Good luck! <3 Hope I helped.
I’ve felt that way. What I did about it took time, but I think the results were worth it. I learned to love myself. Sounds simple, huh? Well, it’s not…LOL I took time to list why I loved myself on a piece of paper. I listed all my good qualities, what skills I had, why I though some people liked me or loved me, anything positive I could. Then, I took another piece of paper, and wrote down everything I thought was bad about me, and took a realistic look at it, like I was someone else reading it. It didn’t take me long to find out which things were just me harping on myself about BS, and which things I actually needed to work on. Then, I worked on them. I also praised myself for doing the things well that I do. I rewarded myself. I bought myself a shirt for a job well done at work. I took myself and friend to dinner to celebrate mastering a new skill. I took every excuse to praise myself for big and small things I did well…and suddenly, I realized…uh, other people are complimenting me, too! It was like I’d gone deaf to people who cared about me telling me they appreciated me.
Also, please understand. There will always be people who act like they like you, but in the end, they’re just blowing smoke up your patoot. This is not a fault of yours. This is a character flaw in them! You can’t take the artificial people in the world seriously, or blame yourself for their lack of good judgment when it comes to you. You can learn, however, to identify these artificial people and laugh at them. If you get really onery, don’t wait till they leave to laugh at them. These sad people sometimes don’t even know what they’re missing when they don’t make an authentic attempt to get to know you. Just write them off, and move on to the ones that are really going to care.
Everyone has something special about them that makes them worth caring about and treasuring. Find out what that is in you. Love yourself for it, and share it with others who will love you as much as you love yourself for that special trait. Good luck, and many blessings.
I had a big problem with that. I did not want anybody to look at me at all. I believed I could not do anything, and that I was an alien or something. Now everything is different.
My psychologist is Jesus! I cannot exactly trace how he dealt with me, but I am totally satisfied with me now. I do not think that I am better then anybody else either.
I think, the first thing Jesus did is helped me to stop judging others. I forgave them if they did something wrong, so I could forgive myself when I did something wrong.
Then he helped me to understand that he wants me to look exactly how I look. He let me see inner beauty; outward beauty is ok , but it is absolutely not as important as the media displays it!
He gave me confidence! No matter what people think of me and my actions, when the Creator of the world is on my side and appreciates my actions, who will feel confident to criticize me?
Everybody needs Jesus as personal psychologist.