This is one of those two letter word that having “self” in is yet least selfish in its connotation. The word that is “self esteem” for every person has a variable worth, yet in one set it means “reverence for self” basically  acceptance of ourselves fro who and what we are with values, beliefs, emotions and attitudes. The term is like an asset to ones character if it prevails in right proportion but in case of imbalance anyone can lose the balance over life. Change in the thoughts come with the fluctuation of self esteem. Confident, happy, highly motivated and have the right attitude to succeed are some features that come with high self esteem. But in this fast moving world there are many left out and dejected in them – the one who are the victim of low self esteem. Some of the causes are –

  1. Low public image or rather self image followed by low confidence and being hampered by the bullies.
  2. Negligence towards children or lack or peer.
  3. These days the most common is physical appearance that plays a role in turning the tables for low self esteem.
  4. Negative socialisation and experiences.
  5. Child abuse building guilt and fear, thereby making the courage to face the world fall drastically.
  6. Lack of opportunity for recognition.

The cause are many as a cause to it can build at any point of time, even if the event is quiet fatal yet the effect over the self esteem can be gross. The best example to this is “Miss Julie” by August Strindberg. Where the aristocratic women Julie is the target of low self esteem because of her non-caring bringing up as mother died at her early stage of life and father constantly focusing over public image.  This brings her fate that is suicide. Real kinds of example with modernist point of view letting the readers confront the truth.
To attain back the desired position in the society and foremost in your own eyes, you have to shake yourself and believe in your beliefs. Other than that just take the upcoming steps that will render you with a new start –

  • Let optimism flow in your nerves
  • Acceptance and learning
  • Peace of mind
  • Give no heed to false opinion of the bullies
  • Focus
  • Flexibility

Give you self a new birth by own self as someone has rightly said –
“Believe in your dreams and they may come true; believe in yourself and they will come true”
Life has lot in it extract it rather than submitting your individuality for no reason. The chances are waiting for you – go grab them!